Couples Therapy

Why do people use couples therapy?

 

Common reasons include:

• Frequent arguments or recurring conflicts

• Communication problems

• Loss of trust after dishonesty or infidelity

• Feeling emotionally disconnected

• Differences in parenting styles

• Financial disagreements

• Sexual or intimacy concerns

• Major life transitions (moving, marriage, having children, retirement, etc.)

• Coping with illness, grief, or other stressful events

• Deciding whether to stay together or separate

 

Some couples also attend therapy when things are generally going well but they want to strengthen their relationship skills.

 

What happens in couples therapy?

 

A therapist may help partners:

• Identify unhealthy interaction patterns

• Improve communication and listening skills

• Express needs and feelings more effectively

• Understand each other's perspectives

• Learn conflict-resolution techniques

• Rebuild trust after relationship injuries

• Develop shared goals and expectations

 

Sessions typically involve both partners, although some therapists may occasionally meet with each person individually as part of the process.

 

Common approaches

 

Several evidence-based approaches are commonly used, including:

• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which focuses on emotional connection and attachment.

• Gottman Method, based on research into relationship behaviors and communication patterns.

• Cognitive Behavioral Couple Therapy, which addresses thoughts, behaviors, and communication habits that contribute to conflict.

 

Does it work?

 

Research suggests that couples therapy can help many couples improve relationship satisfaction, communication, and conflict management. Like individual therapy, outcomes vary depending on factors such as:

• Both partners' willingness to participate

• The specific issues involved

• The therapeutic approach

• The quality of the fit with the therapist

 

What couples therapy is not

 

Couples therapy is generally not about the therapist deciding who is "right" or "wrong." Instead, the therapist helps both partners understand the dynamics between them and work toward mutually agreed goals.

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In simple terms, couples therapy is a structured, professional space where partners can better understand each other, address relationship challenges, and build a stronger or more intentional path forward together.

 

Clients find it helpful to have a safe place to work through hard things!

With the help of your therapist, you will establish a common goal and then work as a team towards growth. Individual input is critical, so each partner is provided an opportunity to be seen and heard.